My triplets are now almost 7 and the questions haven’t changed much. We get new ones especially now that we’ve added a 5th child, H, who is now 2. So wether you are a mom to multiples ore even “just” a mom…maybe you can relate.
How did you do it?
Honestly, by focusing on the moment and possibly with anxiety medication. I did it the same way as every mom takes on every life challenge. One thing at a time. I got tired. I was overwhelmed. I had my crazy moments but I had 4 precious lives to take care of. I am as much of a supermom as the next tired, overwhelmed and hot mess mom.
When did you sleep?
Bahaha! Never! I will be truthful. I don’t remember this part much. Was I up a lot? Yes. Did some nights just plain suck? Yes. Did I nap? Totally.
Did you have them naturally?
What is with the invasive, awkward questions? Dude, multiples does not equal huge invasions of privacy. Nobody EVER has asked if I had our 2 year old “naturally.” Did they come out of my body? Yes. In a normal way? Yes. Did I push them out? Kind of, with the help of several nurses and surgeons. Here’s the up front answer and a bit of medical jargon. Trying to give birth to triplets is like playing Russian roulette. Will they all turn head down? Will one come out and the next be breach? There are a lot of unknowns. Every one of mine was grabbed by the butt first, aka were breach, by the surgeon. No vaginal delivery for me. Plus, since your uterus is technically a muscle, would it have had the strength to push out 3 people after being overstretched? We will never know. And for the record, I did have my 5th child “naturally” in a birthing center. Boom!
Were you on bedrest?
No and I was so so so lucky. I never had any premature contractions or any dilation prior to their arrival.
How long did you carry them?
Till they could walk. HA! 35 weeks, which in triplet world is amazing. In my hot mess mind…it wasn’t as far as I wanted to go. More #momguilt.
How big were they?
E (Baby A) was 4lb, 2 oz, H (Baby B and average size for 35 weeks) was 5lbs, 2oz and G (Baby C) was 3lbs, 9 oz. For the record our first child E was 8lbs, 3 oz and our last was 8lb, 13oz.
Baby boy C, G, required a bit a for extra oxygen and a C-PAP at birth. This caused a double punctured lung which didn’t slow him down much. They were considered “feed and grow” babies, which means that they needed to know how to eat, put on some weight, and maintain their temps before the hospital would release them. No lasting problems and G was the last to come home spending 21 days in the hospital. If we would’ve done bottles right away, they could’ve been home sooner. #momguilt
Having multiples and a family of 5 kiddos is not easy. But mothering in general is not easy. If you want easy, get a cat. If you want rewarding, life changing, patience testing, and love growing…be a parent.
Part 1 of the FAQ series can be found here.
To read more about our journey with triplets click here.